Separation anxiety

Separation anxiety in dogs – Expert advice on how to deal with it!

The other day browsing through social media I came across a dog group (happens quite often in my feed, as I am sure you can imagine). In the group they were talking about separation anxiety. A person was asking if getting another dog would help her current dog with his/her separation anxiety and to my surprise many of the comments was a profound yes!

So today I want to address this issue that many dog owners struggle with, including myself with my dog Belga.

I have 2 rescues from Portugal, both very different. Chester is more independent and doesn’t really mind people leaving from a group or that I am leaving. If he could he would quite enjoy taking his own walk, I think.

Belga, on the other hand, is the complete opposite. She will do everything in her power to keep a group together. Herding them to stay close if she has to (also breed related). If we are in different rooms in our home she will place herself in the room in between, doing regular check ups on all of us to see if we are still there. Belga, if she could, would like to follow me wherever I go, and is not fond of me leaving at all.

But what is separation anxiety really?

Watch our video about separation anxiety here:

Separation anxiety is when your dog cannot be left alone, and if left becomes highly anxious and stressed out.

A dog with separation anxiety will exhibit behaviors possibly leading to destruction of some form or self inflicted damage. Your dog might urinate or worse in the house. He/She might start chewing on furniture, doors or walls or start howling or barking out of desperation of being alone.

If your dog on the other hand is more dependent on a person and acts like described above when that specific person leaves, we are more likely talking about attachment issues. This is related to separation anxiety, but is not the same. It has nothing to do with your dog not liking to be left alone in your home, but is more about that he/she wants to be with that specific person constantly.

Getting another dog in the household is therefore not always the best solution. Sometimes it helps, but if the anxiety is due to an attachment to a specific person or a fear, then a second dog will have no effect on your current dog’s state.

Dogs, as you might have understood in the intro, are first and foremost individuals. They have their own personality, their own needs and their own way of experiencing the world. Just like we humans do. And getting another dog on the sole basis to get rid of your other dog’s anxiety is not a valid reason for getting a new dog.

Let me tell ya! A multi dog household is a lot of work!

With 2 dogs you have 2 personalities whose needs you have to fulfill. No hands are free when walking. Two minds need to be tired out in order for them not to become the super destructive duo that will turn your house into ruin. Your old dog might also affect your new dog, causing them both to become anxious and stressed.

Separation anxiety

How to work with a dog with separation anxiety?

If your dog has separation anxiety my first advice would be to contact an ethologist/behaviorist (remember I am also available for Online consultations) to help you make a plan for how to work with this. This step cannot be emphasized enough, as you might do more harm than good if you decide to tackle this problem on your own.

Remember each dog is an individual and needs a specific set of training tools in order for the both of you to succeed in getting rid of the separation anxiety.

General advice

  1. Identify the cause behind your dog’s anxiety.

Is it when he/she is home alone in general?

Is it when a certain person or animal leaves?

Is it only sometimes (then it might not be separation anxiety, but something on that day or time that is scary – like the garbage truck or fireworks)?

This is most easily done by putting up a video camera and film your dog while he or she is home alone. Then observe the film afterwards to see how your dog behaves.

Are any triggers in the environment that makes your dog change their behavior?

2. Change the behavior

Next thing to figure out is how to change that behavior.

How to make your dog confident enough so that he or she is comfortable being home alone?

Now, first I want to point out that if you do have a dog that has separation anxiety it will be very hard to fix if you keep leaving your dog alone for 8-10 hours each day. All dogs like to be with their family.

If you do have a long workday and you cannot bring your dog to work with you or come home during your lunch break. Then look into a doggie day care or hiring a dog walker or a dog sitter.

3. Enrichment

The third thing is enrichment enrichment enrichment!!!(Watch our Youtube enrichment series here).

It is super important that you leave your dog with something to do when you leave your house and they are home alone. An activity toy such as a frozen Kong can keep your dog entertained for hours.

If you do this every time you leave, your dog will soon make the association. Mummy or daddy is leaving, then I get something yummy! Making your leaving a positive!

4. Exercise

The fourth thing is to always make sure to give your dog enough exercise before you leave him/her. A tired dog, is a calm dog!

Person attachment issues

person attachment issues

If your dog is very attached to a single person in your household then you need to take another approach. Start getting other people to engage more with your dog.

Give different family members different dog tasks. One feeds, several people take different walks, all play their own game with the dog, all give equal amounts of attention to the dog.

This will not only inhibit the dog from creating a strong bond with only one person, it will also enhance the bond to the entire family leaving everyone happier.

It should be said that some dogs do pick their favorite people. However, by having everyone engaged and involved in your dog, that also makes it easier for the dog when their favorite person leaves the home. Instead of panicking, they know they can go to someone else and get the comfort that they need.


Separation anxiety is not by any means an easy quick fix. It will take time and commitment to get your dog to a place where he/she is comfortable with you leaving. As in all training it is important to break the process down in small steps that both you and your dog can succeed in. Make it a fun journey and expect bumps on the road now and again before you reach success!

Always contact a professional before embarking on this training journey as each dog is an individual and needs their very own specific training steps in order to succeed.

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